Bible reading: Exodus 20:13
06/08 – Taking care of you and your family.
(Sixth and Seventh commandments).
We have seen that God made a declaration of love in 10 marriage vows (promises). Exodus 20 is a wedding certificate where these promises are registered. He pronounced them publicly getting engaged with Israel, taking them as His bride.
In the first promise of God, He promised to be faithful to you, to be your Husband, to take care of you, so you will never need to seek for another one who will care about you.
His second promise is to stay at your side constantly. He promised to be with you at all times, to the point that you will never need a picture of Him, because the real God will be at your side. He also promised to take care of you and your family, as the doctor visits the home of the ill to heal them.
In third place, God has promised to listen to you at all times, every time you call Him, every time you use His name. He is willing to help you and waits for your call of help to react immediately.
God has also promised to set aside a time each week to be with family. A special time every Saturday, to enjoy with you all that He has created, together with your family. He even invites the visitors you have at home to this feast. God wants to have a party every week. He only asks you to remember that weekly appointment.
The fifth promise, which introduced the following promises, is God’s commitment to help you to become a good person, an exemplary son or daughter. And as a guarantee that He keeps His promise, He tells you that He is the first interested in helping you to be a good child so that the whole universe can see His love and dedication for you.
Let’s go today with the sixth promise.
Sixth promise: The “Godfather”
From now on, we have to see the remaining promises (commandments) under the prism of the first part of the Law. I would like to remind the context of Exodus 19:4-6 seen in the first day: God introduces Himself as an Almighty God, who cares for each one of us and provides for all our needs. A God who took us on “eagle’s wings”, we are His most cherished treasure and He reminds us that all Earth and its content belongs to Him.
We also need to have in mind that from now on He is going to show us how we can honor Him. But not giving commands, but promising help so we will be able to achieve the goals.
Exodus 20:13 is a very simple and short promise: “You shall not murder”. It does not say “Do not kill” (in present tense). I remind you this is a Future Imperative. What God is trying to say with these few words is: From now on, you will not need to kill, there will not be any necessity of attempting against the life of nobody, nor to defend yourself neither for conquering.
Remember, God is every day at your side, at all times. If we would be really conscious of His presence, of this promise, we would realize that we have at our side the most powerful Living being of the Universe, who is also jealous to defend us at any moment. God has promised to escort you at all times (second promise) and that’s why you do not need any picture of Him. He is Strong, and ready to defend you at any moment. When we call Him, he promised we will never do it in vain, because He will answer immediately to rescue you, and nobody can stop him from doing it because He is “Strong”.
Now, in this context, God promises that from now on, if you accept Him as your God, as the “Husband”, you will not need to defend yourself, with your own means, aggressing or attacking others. He will do it for you if needed.
Someone could say now: “But in the Old Testament we read about wars and horrible things”. This is something that God did not want. God had already done this promise “You shall not kill,” before these chapters of the history in the Bible were written. God did not want His people to be involved in violence to expel the inhabitants of Canaan after the wedding ceremony (only 40 years later). Sadly, that’s what happened, and that marked a tendency for the rest of the history of Israel as a nation.
Do you remember how God got rid of Pharaoh’s army? Did they have to fight against them? No, they did not. It was God who defended Israel burying the army in the Red Sea. He is the owner and giver of all life, only He can take it back again.
A little bit after, how did they conquer Jericho? Without weapons. With just a procession around the walls of the city. It was God who took the city for them.
A few pages after Exodus 20, we can read this other promise: Exodus 23:27-28: “I will send My fear before you, I will cause confusion among all the people to whom you come, and will make all your enemies turn their backs to you. And I will send hornets before you, which shall drive out the Hivite, the Canaanite, and the Hittite from before you”. In Deuteronomy 7:20 we see the same idea repeated: “Moreover the Lord your God will send the hornet among them until those who are left, who hide themselves from you, are destroyed”.
Who among you has a driver’s license? Do you feel comfortable when someone else is driving and you are seated at the co-pilot seat? Specially you, husbands. Are you telling to your wife, “the blinker”, “accelerate”, “watch out this or that”…? How often do you try to “push the brakes pedal” even when you do not have it in your side? The truth is, we do not like to let other person to take “control” of the vehicle. We mistrust the other person, maybe that person will not react on time, or will not do the things as you would like it.
It happens the same with us and God. Due to our incapacity of firmly trusting in His promises, we are not capable to enjoy them. We do as Jonah did, we know God is going to be merciful with our “enemy” and I do not like this idea.
We have forgotten we are the bride, the “apple of His eye”, His special treasure, and that our Husband will not allow us to fight alone to survive. Furthermore, God wants the others to rejoin the wedding, add more members to the family. Ezekiel 18:32 says: “For I have no pleasure in the death of one who dies,” says the Lord God. “Therefore turn and live!”. Who am I to judge who must to die or not? God is saying: “Let me take that decision, you will no longer have to do it.”
What’s more, it is not only about physical violence. God promises you that “you will not kill” in all aspects. Jesus had to explain again this same promise in the New Testament during his ministry:
Mathew 5:21-22 “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not murder, and whoever murders will be in danger of the judgment.’ But I say to you that whoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment. And whoever says to his brother, ‘Raca!’ shall be in danger of the council. But whoever says, ‘You fool!’ shall be in danger of hell fire”.
The problem is more serious than just “killing”. The real problem is why do we want to kill. It is not for the offense done to you, or the attack against you. The true reason is because we are NOT trusting in the promise of God’s protection. This is mistrusting, lack of faith. God has promised to take care of all this.
Even more, Jesus drove our minds into a deeper comprehension of this principle, since it was already there. Insulting someone is the first step before a long path that drives us to kill him physically. The intention is the same. You are distrusting God and you are defending yourself with a verbal aggression. The root of the action is the same. But God tells you: “From now on, you will not kill, you will not need to be aggressive.”
God promises to transform us in people of peace. John 14:27 “My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid”. We will become a people of reconciliation: 2 Corinthians 5:18 “Now all things are of God, who has reconciled us to Himself through Jesus Christ, and has given us the ministry of reconciliation”.
Once God has promised to protect us and to protect the most fundamental, to say, the life, He needs to organize that life on this world. The base of society is the family. God promises to help you to protect your family, that’s the seventh promise.
Exodus 20:14 “You shall not commit adultery.” From now on, you will not have why to cheat me, neither to your wife or husband on Earth. You will honor your family, parents, and also wife or husband. I promise you will know how to take care of the most intimate gift that I could give you. Your way of life by my side will be an original, authentic and emotional experience to the point that you will not get “bored” of your couple, and you will never need to seek “new emotions” outside of the intimate gift, the marriage. Your emotions will be so satisfactory that you will not need any “extra bonus”.
Proverbs 5:15-19 “Drink water from your own cistern, and running water from your own well. Should your fountains be dispersed abroad, streams of water in the streets? Let them be only your own, and not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love”.
If you are capable of remain faithful to your heavenly Husband, the invisible One, of whom you do not need a photo, wouldn’t you be happy with your earthly conjoint to whom you can see? In God’s family dysfunctional relations are restored. Anything adulterated means “altered, changed, modified, polluted”. God promises to restore all adultery, any altered relation, anything that never should have been changed or polluted. He promises to restore something very important, the basis of any society: The family.
Youth: If you trust in God, if you ask him in prayer your ideal partner, the man or woman of your life, the one that He knows that will be the best life partner, I warrant you that, if you are patient enough, He will give you much more of what you can imagine or dream. God will find you one companion for life, to the point that a human life will become short, and then you will need and seek an eternal life to enjoy that gift given by God. That’s what happened and happens to me with Susana.
(Experiment with two cans, one empty and the other one full). What really matters is not only the external looking, but the content. God will give you the best.
It is curious the order of the promises: First the prologue, the fifth double promise. Next, the basic, the right to live. If there’s no life, then, there will not be families and anything else. Next, the promise of family restoration and preservation of the basic cellule of society.
Never forget, you have the most powerful Being of the Universe living constantly at your side, willing to expend every single minute with you. He is always ready to listen to you, to take care of you, planning a weekly festival of joy in family.
Furthermore, He wants to help you to become an example of person who honors the family. He is ready to defend you at any moment from those who want to hurt you somehow. He is always on guard, vigilant so you will not need to argue with nobody else. Let Him take care of the situation for you.
He is willing to give you a special present, a companion for life, as He did with Adam and Eve. He has prepared the ideal one for you, and wants to help you to build a healthy and endurable relationship. He has promised it and will do it.
Ask God now in prayer for help to trust in Him and strength and patience to wait for His answer at His time, or wisdom to restore your marriage.
Pray with the assurance that He listens to you. Thank Him for His will to help you to become an exemplary child of God. Do not forget that, despite your feeling of unworthiness, the first interested in helping you is God himself. I invite you to pray.